I had to lose control of my body to gain control of my orgasms. Prior to my foray into BDSM, I could not reliably cum with a partner. Sure, I could get myself off- at an Olympic level pace- but with a partner I found it way too hard to stay in the moment. InsteadContinue reading “Learning to Cum: My Foray into Orgasm Control- Part 1”
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A Primal Interlude (to an otherwise civilized conversation)
When The Professor and I go without seeing each other for a couple of weeks, the tension between wanting to get naked and wanting to catch up in conversation is palpable. We text, but it isn’t the same for two avid conversationalists. Getting naked always wins out, because, well, duh- but the profound friendship isContinue reading “A Primal Interlude (to an otherwise civilized conversation)”
Mr Grey (My First Dom)
In my mid to late 20s I took some time to find myself, and by that I mean have a lot of sex with whomever I wished, guilt-free. Some would call it a spiral, but I saw it as more of a liberation- the old “have sex like a man” adage, where I took whatContinue reading “Mr Grey (My First Dom)”
The Professor
Sometimes two people inexplicably click. Different life stages, different backgrounds, different experiences- there is little reason for them to interact, let alone connect- but sometimes, the universe intervenes to make it happen. That is how I would contextualize the Professor. He is a father of grown children (slightly younger than me), divorced, in a long-termContinue reading “The Professor”
Tormentor and Protector
One of the things that I appreciate most about Mr. Envelope is the level of care that he puts into hurting me. As he wrapped lengths of rope around my legs, binding me to a spreader bar to keep them open, his touch was sensual, deliberate. I lay on the bed with wrists cuffed toContinue reading “Tormentor and Protector”
Mr. Envelope
Introducing Mr. Envelope: intelligent, deliberate, self-aware, unassuming. My height, slim build, strong hands. He likes to play with rope, take photos, and explore boundaries when it comes to pain. He does with a great deal of care and, ironically, gentleness. I would describe his style as two parts sadism, one part sensual, and eight partsContinue reading “Mr. Envelope”
Perfectly Painted
In an effort to get my head on straight before going back to work after the holidays, I invited Mr. Intensity over for a play. His plan was to use me as he saw fit, and leave it at that- a plan that he executed flawlessly. He arrived and we caught up for a bit-Continue reading “Perfectly Painted”
Mr. Intensity
I am not easily intimidated. I have a bit of a superiority complex, and I am fairly self-assured. Every now and then, though, someone comes along to make me doubt whether I might be the smartest person in the room. I don’t particularly care for the feeling, but it is a surefire way to getContinue reading “Mr. Intensity”
Dominant Partners: Cast and Crew
Over the next few weeks, I am going to introduce you to some current and former partners. Every Dom’s style is different, and I have had the privilege of learning from some incredible people. I don’t submit casually; while I do immensely enjoy casual sex, the D/s thing requires a whole lot of trust andContinue reading “Dominant Partners: Cast and Crew”
New Protocol
The thrill of a new partner is always such a high- the way his energy consumes a room, his smell enveloping you before his hands even touch you. The feel of new hands dancing along your skin, that first tentative crush of lips together. Last night, I played with a new partner- and he didContinue reading “New Protocol”
Down the Rabbit Hole 